Friday, June 17, 2011

9 year old little girl drama...

El Director and I have hired a college student to keep an eye on our kids during the day while we are at work...  This SHOULD be an easy job.  However we have 4 very independent, sometimes loud, sometimes ornery, always mischievous children.  So what SHOULD be an easy job, isn't always so easy.

Take for instance this past Wednesday...  Everyone was actually getting along in the morning after a stressful moment the night before when we couldn't find K-Lo's Bear Blankie...  Fortunately AWA located the Bear Blankie early Wednesday morning, so everyone was happy...  until they went to the pool...

Let me give a little background...  A few months ago, I took AWA to a birthday party for her "friend".    Let's just call this friend "McGuire".  Actually, I am not sure how these two became friends or why AWA still considers this girl her friend.  Their personalities just don't seem to agree.  AWA is so outgoing, talkative, confident...  except when she is around McGuire.  When she is with McGuire she is submissive, and she doesn't stick up for herself.  McGuire seems to like to be the center of attention.  There have been other subtle incidences with her.  So at this point I just don't encourage the relationship.

This particular birthday party was held at an arcade type of place - where the kids get tickets when they play games.  And they collect these tickets to buy prizes.  I left the party for a short time to run an errand, and when I came back, AWA was not happy.  She had given all of her tickets to McGuire because McGuire told her that the tickets were hers since it was her birthday.  So AWA didn't have any tickets left and could get any prizes...  None of the other kids gave their tickets to McGuire.  AWA was pretty upset, and really just wanted to leave.  So we did.

K-Lo feels very protective of AWA...  And K-Lo knew about this incident and has been wanting to have words with McGuire for some time.  (Are you keeping up here - 8/9 year old little girl drama is worse than a soap opera!) 


Fast forward to this week... All of the kids are at the pool, and who shows up...   McGuire!  I really thought the girls had forgotten about all of this (I had forgotten about all of this).  No such luck!  K-Lo decided to tell McGuire a thing or two about her behavior and that she should NOT treat AWA that way.  And apparently in the end, McGuire left crying.  K-Lo did apologize to McGuire before they left the pool.

I came home a little later - get mobbed by the girls - hear this entire story, and am warned that "McGuire's Mom might call you."  Alright, this isn't the first time that K-Lo's brutal honesty has resulted in a parent contacting me!

So honestly, how do I feel about that?  Not very upset!  My daughter routinely stands up to bullies!  She does not like to see people getting picked on.  She is not intimidated by many people, and least of all by a 9 year old little girl.  I am so proud that she is willing to call people out on their behavior!  But I think my hair is turning gray at an exponential rate!

Tuesday, May 17, 2011

In true Picksburgh fashion...

We got married this weekend at the Heinz History Center, which is absolutely the most fabulous museum in Pittsburgh!  It is all Pittsburgh, all the time!  We LOVE it!  El Director and I love it!  All four kids love it! 

On a bit of a tangent, I must confess that one of my favorite things in Pittsburgh is at the airport...  When you go up the escalator after the tram...  on your way to the sky mall and the terminals...  there are 2 statues.  One of these statues is George Washington - the founder of our country.  The other statue is of Franco Harris - the receiver of the immaculate reception.

I think it is so soooooo funny that we place these 2 "legends" side by side.  There is just something very comical about this to me.  There is a similar statue of Franco Harris at the Heinz History Center...

And I am raising 4 little Picksburghers...  So in true Picksburgh fashion,  we had to get a picture of the 4 kiddles with Franco...


I love this picture!  Look at those faces!  They had a great time at the wedding and the reception!

Monday, May 16, 2011

A quick follow-up...

Well, well, well...  apparently I have touched a nerve.  I must say that those of you who know me know that the idea of stirring up controversy is actually kind of fun for me!   Just to be clear...  this blog is MY outlet...  I reserved my comments for a very long time on this blog, but no more.  What I write here are my un-edited thoughts.

That being said, I would like to address some of your comments personally...  Oh - wait a minute - I can't reply to you personally because you don't have the balls to leave your email address!  Cyberspace is a wonderful thing isn't it...  You can talk all kinds of trash, and not be held accountable.  How nice for you!  So I guess I will address you here so that everyone can read what I want to say to you...

Do not pretend to know me, my husband, my step-children, or my children on the basis of one blog post.  I was not even specific about the incident on Mother's Day...  NONE of you even know any of the details.  But to clear up any ambiguity, my husband was also shell-shocked and not pleased about what happened. 

I never, EVER said that I was trying to erase the memory of my step-children's mother.  In fact, you may be surprised to know that I have very loving and in-depth conversations with my step-daughters about their mother - sometimes more in-depth conversations with them than their father because they are very comfortable talking to me about her.  The children did not know that I was upset on Mother's Day - I would never make them feel uncomfortable or self-conscious about talking about their mother. 

Would you be surprised to know we have a tree in the backyard to memorialize her, and that tree will be uprooted and moved to our new home so that we can have the memorial at our new family home.  Would you be surprised to know that we went to that tree on their mother's birthday and each said something to her?  Even me - the wicked evil step-mother!

I love comments!  LOVE THEM!  I love hearing from people on this blog, and I have made many friends through this blog.  But for those of you who have never read my blog before, or don't know me personally, DO NOT presume to know my situation.  And if you do not have the testicular fortitude to leave an email address so that I can contact you personally, then don't bother commenting!

I will continue to vent on this blog!  And I welcome your responses to my rants!

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

I am annoyed!

This post is deeper than most of my posts...  there are just some things I need to express...

I am marrying a widower with 2 little girls.  The entire situation presents a very interesting dynamic.

El Director lost his first wife; the girls lost their mother.  They mourn that loss.

I lost my first husband, though not because of death.  And my children lost their intact family.  We mourn that loss.

We all will continue to mourn our individual losses.  However, we are all moving forward as a family.  and WE ARE HAPPY!  Can you believe it?  Yes - we are all happy to be together!

I do not expect my new stepchildren to forget their mother.  However, I need to point out that I am the one who will raise them...  I am the one who will wipe their tears; hold them when they are sick; attend their school functions; cheer them on at their soccer games.  I am the one who has embraced these little girls as if they are my own to try to make them feel whole again... to make them feel the unconditional love of a Mom...

There are some things that annoy me greatly and I have no other outlet for them...
  • I am annoyed when Mother's Day is hijacked.  I am annoyed when there are ceremonies or remembrances occurring and I am not included.  In fact, not only am I not included, I am not even told about these events...  At the end of the day - I became the second best Mom.  There are 365 days in the year - pick any other day to make me the second best Mom...  Incidentally, I think next year we are eliminating Mother's Day from our family calendar.
  • I am very annoyed when people try to prolong the mourning.  Is that insensitive??  Well - I don't care!  I wish people would stop trying to find new and innovative ways to remember El Directors first wife.  Otherwise I may have to find new and innovative ways to commemorate my first husband as well.
  • Do not feel sorry for El Director and my step-daughters.  This kind of goes along with prolonging the mourning... Is it so far-fetched to believe that El Director could actually be happy with anyone than his first wife??
  • No - we are not going to have any kind of dedication to El Directors first wife at our wedding.  The same way we will not be having any kind of dedication to my first husband. 
Enough venting for now...  I reserve the right to add more later.

    Sunday, May 8, 2011

    Happy Mother's Day!

    This year, I am celebrating Mother's Day with El Director and our 4 kiddles.  El Director's girls (AHA and AWA) have completely embraced me as a Mom - and it feels awesome!  These 2 sweet little girls lost their mother almost 2 years ago.  And there is something inside of me that compels me to help them feel whole again. 

    I am working so hard to make sure D-Ro, K-Lo, AHA, and AWA feel a mother's love every single day!  Each of them touches my heart in their own special way.  Some thoughts off the top of my head...

    • I love when my son, who is 10 just comes up to me out of nowhere and hugs me and tells me he loves me.  He is so loving and sweet.  He is a very reserved little boy with his feelings.  But I know in my heart how much he loves his Mom!
    • I love K-Lo's sense of humor...  She has always been very wise beyond her years, and she has a very mature sense of humor.  She makes me laugh every. single. day.  
    • I love in the morning when AWA gets up with me (she is an early bird like me) and she looks at me and says "Coffee?"  And she snuggles up with me on the couch under an afghan and we watch Good Morning America.
    • I love how AHA waits until the other kids are distracted with something, and she sneaks up to me and gives me a big bear hug.  
    They are 4 different people....  All smart, funny, loving, and kind.  And all of them also have their own special way of pushing me to the edge of sanity - like when they leave garbage all over the inside of my van; sing top 40 songs like "What the Hell" at the top of their lungs; or call my every expanding ass "Nancy."

    But I feel so lucky to have the opportunity to be a Mom to all of these kids.  They are all teaching me to be a better person and they are teaching me how unconditional love feels.  So today I will celebrate the gift of 4 children that has been given to me.

    Tuesday, April 26, 2011

    Rainbow Cake....

    My daughter decided we should make this cake for Easter:


    Wow!  It never occurred to me to make a cake like this before; a little too extravagant for my simple mind.  So we set out to make this cake.





    Ok - so it didn't turn out exactly like the photo, but it tasted great!  We have decided this is our new Easter tradition.

    Tuesday, April 12, 2011

    Post It Note Tuesday...

    Its Post It Note Tuesday!!!!!
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    My thoughts for the day...




    Thursday, February 17, 2011

    Size does matter?

    So I snore...  Well that is what I am told anyway...  For a long time I was convinced that Satan and Lucifer were conspiring against me, and just pretending that I snore in an effort to see if they could drive me further into insanity.   Then they got El Director on board, and he told me I snored.

    One night I got the bright idea that I would record myself on my iPhone all night long to catch myself snoring.  What happened instead is that I think I crashed my iPhone...  I am not sure if the 7 hour 47 minute recording had anything to do with it - I just know that right after that recording, the iPhone suffered a horrible death.  I never got to listen to that recording, so I still have never heard myself actually snore.  I am just taking the word of some very questionable characters!

    I do know that I wake up every. single. night.  And I am starting to think that I actually wake myself up snoring.  So El Director had a bright idea that I should try some nose strips, and he happen to have some for me to try - they were Target brand.  And I must report that the first night I wore the nose strip, I slept soundly all night long, for the first time in as long as I can remember.  I tried the Target nose strip a second night, and sure enough, I slept great!

    So I stopped at the Rite Aid one evening between running to soccer and swimming and I bought a box of nose strips - they were Rite Aid brand.  And that night, I used one.  But by the next morning, the strip was missing - I still have not located it.  My son did however reported that I did not snore.

    The next night, I used another Rite Aid Strip, but I woke up about 4:00 am and tossed and turned after that.  Eventually that strip started lifting up around 5:00 or so.  My daughter wore one of the nose strips that night too (she does have a little snoring problem occasionally).

    So that morning, after we were all awake, I said to K-Lo, "I wonder if my nose is too big for the strip??"  Then I went downstairs to get her breakfast ready.

    While I am getting her some toast, she is yelling down from my bedroom, "Size does matter Mom!"  Um - WHAT???  She yelled that to me again.  I seriously had no idea WHAT the child was talking about.

    I went back upstairs, and she is sitting on my bed reading the box for the nose strips, and it does say on the box that some people require a medium-large nose strip, and I was only using the medium strips.

    Hmph!  So basically, my nose is too big for the medium strips!   Apparently size does matter in more ways than one!

    Monday, January 24, 2011

    Onto the Next Chapter...

    Guess what??  I am sooo happy!  I have been moping around on this blog for the past several months.  But during that time, when I wasn't sulking about the Enginerd, a funny thing happened...  I started seeing someone very seriously.  This is someone that I have known for sometime, but really only as friends. I don't have a good alter-ego name for him, so I am going to call him El Director.

    During the summer when I was going through a very rough time, El Director was really a great friend.  My family is not in the area, and I had just started a new job...  With all of the other things going on in my life, I felt very alone.  And the relationship began to progress...

    He has 2 children and they get along great with my kids...  Actually his oldest daughter is the same age as my daughter - so there is little competition there because as you all know little girls are MEAN!  His younger daughter idolizes my son - they are so cute...  She loves to play XBox with him, and he is so happy to have a willing opponent!

    A few weekends ago, we went to the Heinz History Center in Pittsburgh with all 4 kids.  This is truly my favorite museum in Pittsburgh!  It is ALL Pittsburgh!  And soooo cool!  We hadn't taken the kids there before, so this was their first visit, and they all seemed to really enjoy it.

    The museum was more crowded than normal because of a Vatican Exhibit, and El Director was getting annoyed.  After we went through the entire museum, I could tell it was time to go - the kids were getting hungry; there was a lot of noise with all of the people; El Director looked exasperated!  So we were all standing together talking about the museum, and El Director asked the kids what they thought...  They all said they really liked the museum.  Then El Director asked them what they thought about having a wedding at the museum, and they thought that would be a great place for a wedding.  Then he turned to me and asked me if I would like to have our wedding at the museum!!! And he got out a little blue box, and showed all of the kids our wedding rings.

    I am not normally an emotional person, but I began to tear up. The kids were so happy. El Director and I are so happy!

    I know alot of you are thinking that I have gone completely nuts!  Maybe I have...  Whatever... I am happy!  I am crazy in love!  I am onto the next chapter now...

    Sunday, January 23, 2011

    What did I agree to????

    Ok - so my sister has been diagnosed with Graves Disease, and one of the results of that disease is that her thyroid is running at max speed!  At Christmastime, she was eating about 3000 calories a day just to maintain her weight.  Sounds all good, right?  Wrong - when the thyroid is maxed out like that, it can have a very bad effect on her heart.

    So she decided to have a radioactive iodine treatment on her thyroid.  After the treatment, she stayed in a hotel for a few days so she wouldn't expose my little nephew to any radiation.  I called her the first night she was stuck in the hotel, and we discussed the effects of the iodine treatment, and what happens next... 

    So she started talking about having more kids, and what would happen if she couldn't have any more and this thyroid thing messes everything up... blah blah blah...  But I THINK I agreed to be a surrogate for her!  Really??  Did I really agree to that??  I didn't even hesitate, which is really only an indication that I had been drinking waaaaay to much!  Couldn't I just give her my kidney or my thyroid??

    Then I started thinking about it alittle more - maybe it wouldn't be so bad...  I mean, I had really easy pregnancies both times... With my second, I completely fell off the wagon, and ate everything in sight!  I ate chocolate icing right from the can every. single. day.  Truth be told, I still do that on a lot of days, but when I was pregnant, I had no guilt!

    In fact, the worst part about being pregnant for me was after the babies were born...  the lack of sleep; the stress of trying to get the belly button to heal; worrying that they weren't getting enough to eat; worrying that I was overfeeding them; I could go on and on... 

    I wouldn't have to deal with any of that stuff.  The kid would probably roll right out, because lets face it, that road has been paved  - I suspect it wouldn't take much more than a sneeze to get it out.  And I already need some kind of surgery to get my stomach back anyway, so there is really no more damage that can be done in that area...

    Then I remembered the hormonal shifts my body endured after the babies were born...  my hair all fell out and what little was left went completely straight...  I broke out in severe hives all over my body for months...  Hmmmm - maybe a kidney donation would be easier...